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| From Amy above - (the perpetrator became the victim) |
Here’s a response I wrote but never sent:
From Jo Ann:
Amy:
Thank you for writing me an email and acknowledging you received my card.
I wasn’t going to respond since some of your words hurt, but I have done a lot of thinking after reading your email and I want to send some of my thoughts to you.
I thought it was nice that you said that someday, in time, you hope that there could be some interaction and that my family might eventually be cordial with one another.
Reaching out to you during the past almost four years to try to heal things just seemed the right thing to do, but after reading your words and after trying to apologize and say I am sorry more than once and then being reminded of all the mistakes I made after the most recent apology where I did not even expect a response, rest assured that I (we) no longer care to be in contact or interact with you and Billy.
I have nothing against Phoebe and Charlie, so if they wish to be in contact with me and Dan and Rebekah, Joel, and Annabelle, that is their choice.
Annabelle did not want to invite Billy and your family and Lynnellen and her family to her wedding, but I insisted. I felt that if your family and Lynnellen and her family were not invited, that would mean that we truly wanted no interaction with any of you ever. If I had known then you and Billy and Lynnellen didn’t want interaction, you would not have been invited at all.
Each invitation Annabelle sent cost her money. I told Annabelle I would pay for your family and Lynnellen’s family if any of you did attend and reimburse her for the cost of the invitations sent to you and Lynnellen and her family.
Billy was one of the first to reply to Annabelle’s wedding invitation . When he did not accept the invite, Annabelle was relieved since she did not want any of you at her wedding anyway. I was relieved since I didn’t need to pay $100 a person for your family and Lynnellen’s family.
We were glad that Cori came via Zoom though. If she had wanted to come in person I would have gladly paid for Cori and her fiancé. By the way, I guess these recent communications mean Cori may not invite us to her wedding? I love Cori and would very much want to be there if she wanted us there.
I could go on and on about every detail that happened since my father’s death.
Some of what occurred could have been a misunderstanding.
In summary, I felt bullied by Billy and Lynnellen.
I had thought for a while that it might be a good idea to at least get a professional family mediator involved so the things that prompted me to hire a lawyer could be understood. Also, I thought Billy and Lynnellen could better understand why I felt bullied. Communication is always a good thing.
I was urged to get a lawyer by more than one person because I was told that Billy and Lynnellen were pushing me into making decisions that I did not agree with.
My dad “gave” Lynnellen the house in Belmont Shore before his brother Bobby died. Daddy did not break the news to Bobby, but Bobby did find out and finding out killed him. He had waited 20 years to get his share of Grandma Fannie’s estate and got nothing. I felt that the proposed delay to not sell the Long Beach condo and have Drew rent it instead was similar when I was told by Angela Kruse that the estate would not close until all property was sold. I was not going to wait 20 years like Uncle Bobby did, so getting a lawyer was necessary.
As far as using social media to share the pain I experienced is just what I do. I had no idea that some of your friends were reporting what I shared on Facebook.
